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How to Have Tough Conversations (Ep 17)

Episode Summary

Jon and Bryan discuss some strategies for having tough conversations, from Black Lives Matter and police abuse to everyday situations.

Episode Notes

Jon and Bryan have a thoughtful conversation about how to have tough conversations better. They hit on the following topics:

- The uncertainty of how Japan and the US are opening up, and the decision-making that goes into it
- The difficult conversations everyone is having in the wake of George Floyd's murder
- Younger people trying to find their voice and know how to use it
- Asking the question: is what I'm going to say going to get me closer to the outcome I want to achieve?
- Why charged emotions make it harder to get to the real issue, which is having a productive conversation
- The first goal of every conversation is to establish a strong relationship, which requires finding common ground
- Pacing and leading is an effective strategy; it starts with meeting someone where they are willing to meet you, on common ground. From there, you can lead them closer to your opinion.
- For topical issues, the common ground is often the core truth that you can both agree on
- Pacing involves many other strategies, including mirroring body language, word usage and intonation, as well as paraphrasing their opinions
- The best time to practice pacing and leading is in everyday, low risk conversations
- Why pacing and leading can actually make you feel more thoughtful and present in your conversation
- Knowing these strategies can help you navigate when other people use them on you
- David Wood's C.A.R.E. Model is a proven technique for preparing for and executing tough conversations


Pacing and Leading - ChangingMinds.org

Hustle and Flowchart podcast with David Wood - Evergreen Profits

David Wood's C.A.R.E. Model - PlayforReal.life

Influence by Robert Cialdini - Amazon


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Jon Rankin, @chasejonrankin, Go Be More


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